Women - the better half

Everytime i see my husband with a book in one hand and a cigarette in the other there is only one question that I ask. How is he so uncomplicated. Then I looked at a lot of other men and realised that he is not a rare specimen to be kept in a museum but that the male of the homosapiens are all blessed with a very simplified brain that is remarkable emptied of an emotion that the women face on an hourly basis - guilt.

Please correct me if I am worng but dont we always feel guilt about something. When we wake up its guilt about missing the morning walk again, then it is rushing to work and feeling guilty about not spending enough time with the kid, then it is rushing to work and then feeling guilt again about stepping in late - looking furtively to ensure that you havent missed much. Now fast forward to the evening - once again while rushing back from work face the guilt of not being one of the latenighters - sure contenders for that promotion, then rushing home to see a sleepy child needing dinner, rustling up something once again wishing you could cook like your mother and then having put her to bed feeling overall quite inadequate - thinking the day could have definitely been better. Now add the cherry of knowing that you are not giving your spouse/marriage enough time.

Now tell me do the men fel the same way. I bet you my last ruppee that these thoughts dont even cross their minds. Every time my daughter chooses my mother over me - whether to play with her or evenmake her sleep I am riddled with doubts and misgivings. I should have spent more time with her. Maybe I should have waited longer before going back to work. Maybe i shouldnt have read the book yesterday instead of playing with her and so on. Then I turn to see my husband happy and I mean really happy to have got some time to himself beacuse of the lucky turn of events.

How do you explain this difference in perspective. I have spoken to a zillion other women - both working and stay at home and they all have the same refrain. It is always guilt or regret about something. Life is just never perfect for us women.

Now is that a good thing or a bad thing - thats what I cannot answer. Maybe we should take a leaf from their book and learn to be more satisfied. But of course then we wouldnt try so hard to do things better- which wouldnt be such a good thing either. I suppose here is a puzzle that still needs to be unraveled. But maybe thats also what makes us what we are - the far superior and more evolved half!